Supporting Your Spouse & Staying Flexible During The Adoption Wait

Adoption spouse support

The Adoption Wait, Episode 6

“ I think a lot of times without realizing it, adoptive parents start the story from where we (adoptive parents) started our story, but for the adoptee, it starts when they're conceived. And so I wanted my daughter in the story to be in her birth mother's belly. And that's how it starts” –Laura Khoury

If you have already started your adoption journey, you know that the adoption wait can be lonely and long with many highs and lows. It is important for waiting adoptive families to get support from family & friends and to find an adoption community who understands the highs and lows of the adoption wait.

In this episode, we talk to Laura Khoury about how her & her husband supported each other as they processed their adoption wait together and as very different individuals. Laura is an adoptive mother of two through domestic infant adoption and foster care adoption. She has advice on how to stay flexible during a wait that can change your life with one phone call.

Laura’s unique experience of adopting her daughter through foster care and sharing custody with her daughter’s foster family for a year before finalization led her to create and write a children’s book. The Tale of Mallory Mouse, From Foster Care to Adoption shares her youngest daughter’s story that started with her birth mother and included both a foster family and adoptive family.

If you feel like you and your spouse are processing your adoption wait differently and need advice on how to communicate effectively and grow through the process together, this is the episode for you.

Here’s what you will hear:

  • The importance of allowing individuals to process the adoption wait in their own way.

  • Expectations of change and growth as a couple during a waiting season.

  • How to prepare for the unknown and to lean into being flexible.

  • Why your future child’s story doesn’t start with you.

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Author Bio: Laura Khoury is the adoptive mother of two beautiful girls. In addition, she and her husband have embraced the fostering of young children. Laura feels deeply passionate about creating stories about foster care and adoption as a way to encourage children to talk about their personal stories. It is Laura’s belief that all children should know where they come from and feel a sense of pride in their story.

Laura and her family currently live in a small town in Michigan where they love being outdoors all year round. They enjoy fishing, skiing, hiking, and just relaxing with a book on the boat or at the beach. She loves children’s literature and feels energized and right at home when writing about her passion.

About this Podcast

The Adoption Wait podcast was created for waiting adoptive parents looking for ways to feel less alone in their adoption journey. Join author and host Laci Richter (Refuel Your Wait: Find Hope and Overcome Fear While Adopting) as she chats with adoptive parents who have been through the wait. If you are waiting to adopt, these are the conversations that will offer practical advice and emotional support from those who get it.

Laci Richter